cognitive distortions

I've started to notice negative self talk I have with myself when I'm alone. I tend to leave interactions happy but after spending time alone quickly turn my memory of them into a negative mush. I told my therapist about this and he said it's something called cognitive distortions which can occur when someone has been traumatized.  I notice them after work or even in planning future events. For example, I'd like to host a party with some co-workers and friends. The first thought that comes to mind about said party is that no one will have a good time and I will be judged for it. I really just want to do it to get over this fear and self-doubt. 

Oct 18

 I've kept myself pretty busy which has helped me from the crushing "reality" of my subconscious. 


The above is a thought I just had. Does it hold any validity? Maybe... I have kept busy to support myself financially and to get an education which is another form of "reality" I have to face. I no longer feel like I have time to go out on weekends and drink, but that kind of applies to making friends in general. Is this immature? or realistic? Honestly, my nights out and time spent with people have actually been much more rewarding than it has been in the past. 


Still, a little free time to rest the mind should be a daily necessity. Going to try and meditate when I can.

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